Just as my two dear friends were about to take their wedding vows in front of friends and family, at the most beautiful venue in Santa Barbara, I began to sweat as it suddenly dawned on me- I was that inappropriate laugher.
You know the one.
When I say inappropriate, I mean those times when the movie theater is dead quiet, engrossed in some actors dramatic speech and I happen to find his face expression hilarious, or busting out laughing during a religious ceremony, walking on a crowded street hysterically gafawing cause I tripped, cracking up at the jokes that no one laughs at in comedy clubs, and general serious events where things are being taken, well, seriously.
I am that inappropriate laugher. And yes, it has happened at a funeral.
Wedged in between my best friend and the grooms friend from school, surrounded by parents, aunts and uncles, I braced myself to hold any uprising laughter in. I was armed with images of oatmeal and dryer sheets, any mundane picture I could think up. They began, I felt that tickle serge. As fate would have it, their words were not only deep and loving but full of humor!!! I held it in!!!
Everyone began to giggle. As soon as I got the “ok” from their reactions I let the laugh go!! And yes, I probably could be heard throughout Santa Barbara, but I didn’t care, it felt so good!!
Turns out laughter is the #1 stress reliever which prevents disease, boosts the immune system, and relieves physical pain. It also causes the release of endorphins which emerse our cells in an overall sense of well being and confidence.
Laughter is a great way to diffuse conflict, shift your perspective AND makes you way more attractive. Yes Please.
Apparently laughing in groups triples these benefits.
I have decided to embrace my urges to bust out a laugh, no approval needed.
So the next time you find yourself taking yourself too seriously or holding back a laugh, dont wait for permission, let it rip and see how you feel!
Can a laugh be too loud?